Interview with Spanking book club organizer Cara Marie

Tell us a little about yourself.

In the BDSM world, I’m a full-time time-in collared submissive. My Dominant has 3 of us – an alpha, who has been collared for going on 8 years, me – the beta – I’ve been collared for (rapidly approaching) 2 years, and a part-time epsilon submissive. I primarily got into the scene 3 years ago through the spanking community, and that really is one first love 🙂 As I’m exploring myself more, I’m finding that I’m very much into bondage as well.

In the vanilla world, I’m a 24 year old graduate student working on a PhD in Biochemistry. I think of myself as a student of everything – hence my love of reading (just about anything I can get my hands on!). I was a competitive distance swimmer in college, and have now turned distance runner. Before I knew what made me tick, I expressed my “masochism” in the form of sports. Back when I was competing I didn’t know what it truly was, but it made me a great athlete! I have a drive to push myself past the limits of pain to get to a truly wonderful state. That can be achieved by swimming hard, running a marathon, or as I discovered when I got into the scene, by getting a hard spanking. They all take me to that state, and I love being there.

How did your spanking book club get started? How often do you meet and how does it work?

I was in a vanilla book club with my local library, and I was expressing my displeasure with the book choices. My sister sub made a comment that we should have a spanking book club – where we could read about our kinks, and discuss them in a constructive fashion. I thought that sounded like a lot of fun, and so I sent out a post to our spanking list-serve and as it turns out, a lot of people were interested! We’ve been going strong for a year now.

How many people are part of the group? How do you select which books you’ll read?

We have a yahoo group for the book club, and technically we have about 35 members. 20 or so of them regularly show up at our monthly meeting. We select the books by popular vote. I set up a poll on our club site, choose some books that have either been recommended or that I find through a Google search, and people can vote for the books that they want to read. I typically find about 10 potential books, and you vote for as many books as look interesting. We read the one with the most votes in the upcoming month, and then the runner up the following month.

What are you reading now?

Right now, we’re reading a collection of stories by our own club members! I had about 15 people submit stories, I compiled them, and handed them out at the July meeting. I have to say that most of them are great stories and I’m really enjoying them!

We have books lined up all the way through November – our (very exciting) reading schedule is:

SEPTEMBER: The Paddle Club: A Fun, Romantic, and Erotic Spanking Novel by Susan Kohler

OCTOBER: Yes, Ma’am: Erotic Stories of Male Submission and/or Yes, Sir: Erotic Stories of Female Submission by Rachel Kramer Bussel. Pick one or read both!

NOVEMBER: What Happens to Naughty Girls by Erica Scott.

I hear you are all writing spanking stories as well – how is that going? What are some of the themes that come up in the stories?

They’re awesome, and they span every type of spanking literature – there’s F/F, F/M, M/F and M/M. Some of them involve the “classic” spanking scenarios – the wife going out and spending too much, the teacher who gets caught spreading rumors about the principal, the husband that is being rude and disrespectful to his wife, who gets sick of it and Doms a belt. Other really original ones include a sailor in the Navy that is spanked by a Navy officer for being incompetent, and a newly married couple that is constantly fighting and their neighbors come over and teach them a lesson. Very creative and well-written stuff!

What do you think makes a great spanking story?

The same things that make a great novel or a great movie – you need a plot and you need to feel connected to the characters. An author that makes the plot believable, and makes you love the characters is writing a great story. For me, my fantasies are so rooted in what could really happen in reality, and the spanking scenes have to be scenarios that I believe could actually happen. And of course, the steamier, the better!

Why do you like reading erotica, and spanking erotica in particular? Does it add to the real-life spanking interactions you have—do you learn things from reading or gain fantasy fodder?

Absolutely! A lot of members are fond of role-playing, and the books we read tend to fuel the fire and give them new ideas for spanking scenes. If it turns you on when you’re reading it, then it’s going to be even better in person, right? And sometimes, a good spanking story puts me in the right mindset for a good spanking. Some of my favorite scenes have been right after I’ve gotten done reading!

How can people get more information about the group?

We do have an online yahoo group, if anyone is interested in joining. We try to do discussion online, as well as at our monthly meeting. Some months that happens more than others, but I make a serious effort to try and include all of our online members. If you’re interested in joining the group, would like to read the books, and fuel some online discussion, please feel free to email me at at I’m happy to respond to any questions that anyone might have, and am even happier to send an invite to the Yahoo group to interested people.

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