Guest post from Madlyn March

This is a guest post from Spanked: Red-Cheeked Erotica contributor Madlyn March: (all links at bottom of post)

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Max Mosley, a British man who owns Formula 1 motor racing and is president of the Federation Internationale de l’Automobile, likes getting spanked. And while I’m not at all shocked to hear there’s a man alive who likes being hit, apparently others are very surprised. He is a businessman. He is a senior citizen. He is respected. He should not be into S&M. This is what is implied in the stories coming out about him.

And this is a major story in the English press. Spanking is not the only part of the story, but it is the part that–as usual–gets the worst press.

Somehow someone decided that because Mosley’s father was a fascist, and because Mosley’s spanking scenes involved hair-shaving and speaking German, that there must have been a whole Nazi aspect to them. Mosley denies there was a Nazi connection, saying he is simply not into that kind of thing. (He does not deny the spanking, which was recorded.)

But what if Mosley were into Nazi-themed S&M? While I personally find such a scene too horrific to even contemplate, I have to say I think everyone has the right to do what they want behind closed doors, providing it is legal. If Mosley wanted to pretend the girls servicing him were prison guards, or that he was the guard, that doesn’t make him a Nazi, or even anti-semitic. It just means he has kinky sexual tastes.

And though the British press may want to pretend this is not a common interest, there is some evidence to the contrary, including the two mainstream films released in 1974 with guard/prison kinkiness (Ilsa, She Wolf of the SS and The Night Porter, starring the very respected Dirk Bogarde). These films would never have been made if there wasn’t enough of an interest.

But 1974 was a far more permissive time, and today in 2008, News of the World, which is, in theory, supposed to be an objective newspaper, has no problem calling Mosley’s interest “sick.”

Thankfully, Mosley’s lawyer reminds us all how common spanking is, as The Daily Mail reports:

“[Mosley’s] barrister told the judge: ‘It’s not a surprise to me or to others who don’t live in an ivory tower or a monastery or, I am sure, to your lordship, that to learn that quite a lot of people, men and women, have a fascinated interest in this sort of thing.'”

People actually like spanking! Film at 11!

Of course, this isn’t news to anyone but maybe your Aunt Ida living in the Midwest.

Mosley is saying News of the World ruined his family life by reporting on the spanking. He’s been with his wife for over 50 years. She didn’t know about any of it.

I feel bad for his family and for him, especially as far as the whole invasion of privacy thing is concerned. Society has an odd double standard for spanking. Tell some friends you’re into it and you’ll probably get a sly smile followed by many questions. But if the press finds out you’re into it–and worse, speak German while doing it–you’re “sick.” Even Mosley himself felt the need to call his interest in spanking “unfortunate,” as reported in a Reuters blog.

Mosley felt his private life should have been kept private, but should spanking really ever be kept quiet if you’re a public figure?

I don’t think so. The less papers report on it, the more odd it seems. If it was reported about more often and–this is the key–more objectively, it might be seen as less controversial and may even make more people open to it in their own sex lives.

I think James Price, who is Mosley’s lawyer, has the smartest thing to say about the whole thing, in the Telegraph.

“Bottom spanking, whip fantasy and role play scenarios are an interest [Mosley] accepts he has had since quite a young age. Most people probably think that S&M behaviour — spanking of bottoms, whips and roleplays, doctors and nurses, Sheik and harem, guards and prisoners — are permissible and private and even funny. The News of the World, we say, is out of touch with the instincts of decent British people.”

(As an aside, I will just add: Can James Price run for president? Even though he’s British and not a politician, maybe we could make an exception?)

In The Daily Star, Mosley gives this defense of spanking and S&M:

“As far as I know, everybody who participates in it enjoys it. The people who are victims want to be victims although some women never take the part of the victim and are purely dominant, some do both and some are purely submissive.

It’s an individual’s choice and it’s the same for the men.”

The fact that Mosley was cheating on his wife brings up yet another point. Why did he cheat? Was it just because wifey was not into spanking? What does a spanking enthusiast do when a partner is not into spanking? Is it morally wrong to cheat in that case? Or do you get these things out in the open right away and abandon the relationship–which might be perfect otherwise–if the other partner isn’t into spanking? Unfortunately, I don’t have the answers, just the questions.

I’ll end on a bit of unintentional humor. The funniest part of the story is News of the World’s defense, (again, as reported in the Telegraph): The NOTW side maintained they were doing the right thing by publishing the story because: “whipping or beating someone until he bleeds is a criminal offence.”

Here are the links, with more info. British commenters seem pretty ok with Mosley. Not sure American commenters would be if this had happened in the US.

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One Response to “Guest post from Madlyn March”

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